Filipina wants to divorce Japanese husband

by Jasmine
(Saitama Ken, Japan)

I am a Filipina who first came as a talent here in Japan. I ran away and overstayed here for 5 years. Then I met my future Japanese husband. We are married for 1 and a half years now. We were good together at first. Because I was overstaying here, I needed to stop working to wait for my visa.

Because of financial problems, we always have fights and arguments. He never gives me money, and little support to my family in the Philippines. I sacrifice because I want our relationship to work, but we always end up in an argument. A little discussion always ends up in a fight. We’re incompatible in many things.

He never talks to me, as if I’m a stranger inside our house. He acts weird and he talks to himself. I just think he’s Japanese and Japanese people are not that sweet. That’s why I understand. Because of our fights and arguments we also never have time for sex. That’s when I realized we can never work it out. I try to talk to him but he always insists xxx.

He acts strange but there is no third party. Maybe because of financial problems that’s why he’s getting cold to me. We talk but he does not listen to me. That’s why I want to divorce him, but I’m just worried because I haven’t received my visa yet. But I can’t stand him anymore.

I want to ask a lawyer about my case but I don’t have money to pay the lawyer. I’m scared. If I’m going to divorce him and the Japan immigration finds out that we’re divorced, will the immigration send me back to the Philippines? Can they do that because I overstayed here for 5 years?

Please help me. I’m confused.

Thanks.

Filipina married to a Japanese abandoned for 3 years now

by Ces Tanaka
(Philippines)

I am a Filipina married to a Japanese national. We have a child but my husband has not sent any financial support since I gave birth. I went to an NPO (non-profit organization) to help us go to Japan and look for my husband.

Fortunately, I had an interview at the Japan Embassy. But they had so many questions regarding my status. I told them everything. I lost contact with my husband when my child was 3 months old. They asked when my husband visited the Philippines. I said it was last November 2005.

They said it was impossible for me to get pregnant because my husband stayed for 6 days only. I explained to the Consul Officer that it was a personal choice as husband and wife if we wanted a child or not. I showed him several pictures and letters of my husband.

I don't know my visa status as of now. I am praying it will be granted. I was married to my husband in Japan after I got pregnant.

Japan is very strict with so many things. But many Japanese men are very irresponsible when it comes to raising their own families. My husband is one of them.

I hope that my story will help Filipinas who want to get married to Japanese nationals.


Dom's reply:I'm sure many Filipinas married to Japanese guys can relate to your story. Perhaps someone reading this page can help you and your son with your concern. Thanks again for sharing, Ces!

Help! Filipina married to a Japanese wants divorce

by Pye
(Philippines)

I’m a Filipina married to a Japanese guy. I thought that my life would be happy. He promised a lot of things. Yes, he brought me to Japan but when I got there, there were many problems. He always hurt me when he was drunk. I was with him for 1 week. After that I went back to the Philippines because I could not take him anymore.

But because I was the bread winner, I had to make some money. I decided to go back to Japan but I never went back to him. I overstayed in Japan because I wanted to divorce him but he did not agree. Our marriage is almost 6 years now.

I’m back here in the Philippines but not divorced yet. I just want to ask if I can file an annulment of our marriage here in the Philippines. I hope someone can answer my question.

Thank you and God bless to all!


Dom's Reply: Pye confirmed that she and her Japanese husband got married in the Philippines in February 2005. Any advice may help other Filipinas married to Japanese in similar situations. Thanks for sharing, Pye.